#WordOfTheDay- This is the meaning of Onerous

 

Hey Sparkle Writers! Did you know that developing a great vocabulary is one of the most overlooked ways to improve your life personally and professionally? This is another reason why you need to take this section of the blog seriously. 

Let’s get to today’s word. 

Onerous is an adjective pronounced /əʊn(ə)rəs,/ or /ˈɒn(ə)rəs/.

Onerous could mean that something or someone is involving, imposing, or constituting a burden or being troublesome. It can also mean having legal obligations that outweigh the advantages

Look at a few words that have the same meaning with onerous; Awkward, back breaking, burdensome, crushing,  heavy, inconvenient, oppressive. 
 
We’d use this word in a few sentences and wait to read yours in the comments box. 
 
 These are our own examples. 

Taking care of my puppy is an onerous task.

When I agreed to help my father cut the grass, I did not realize the chore would be so onerous.

See you next week when we bring another word!

#GrammarSeries – All you need to know about non continuous verbs

It is #GrammarSeries on the Sparkle Writer’s Hub blog today and we want to learn about non-continuous verbs. 

Non-continuous verbs are verbs that we do not normally use with continuous tenses. These “stative” verbs are about state, not action, and they cannot express the continuous or progressive aspect. Here are some of the most common non-continuous verbs:

Here are some of the most common non-continuous verbs:

  • Feelinghate, like, love, prefer, want, wish
  • Sensesappear, feel, hear, see, seem, smell, sound, taste
  • Communicationagree, deny, disagree, mean, promise, satisfy, surprise
  • Thinkingbelieve, imagine, know, mean, realize, recognize, remember, understand
  • Other statesbe, belong, concern, depend, involve, matter, need, owe, own, possess

If you’ve been using any of these verbs in the continuous tense you have to stop. 

Look at these examples

I am wanting cake (Wrong)

I want cake (Right)

I am not hearing anything (Wrong)

I can’t hear anything (Right)

Until next week when we bring another series your way, keep your grammar in check. 

What’s the big deal about building your platform?

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Hello Sparkle Writers. It’s a great week and we hope you are pumped and ready to do amazing things this week. 

Let’s go into the topic for this week. 

Have you ever been told or asked about your writing platform? Do you have one? If you do, are you maximizing it? 

A platform is something like a stage, that gives you the opportunity to pass across your message. 

If you don’t already know, let us tell you that it will not be easy to get someone else to give you a platform so you have to create one for yourself.  

Whatever you want to do, your influence and authenticity is what makes your voice matter. Your authority comes from your platform.. So let’s say it this way, your platform is your right to speak to a particular group of people. 

According to Jeff Goins, a platform amplifies and legitimizes your message. It gives you authority to influence.

In ancient times, a platform for a musician was a record deal and for writers it was a publishing contract. But now things are way different. 

You don’t need to have a publishing contract before you build yourself a platform.

Your blog, Twitter or Instagram page can be your platform. So what are you waiting for? 

Start building yours today. 

 

3 writing myths you must get rid of today

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There are a few things you hear about writing and you are like really? Is that actually true? Or is somebody just saying it because they feel like?

Today we are going to debunk some writing myths. We know you’ve probably heard a lot.

Myth 1 – Writing is a solitary activity.

Don’t you just get annoyed when you say you are a writer and people just expect you to be one sad, lonely person who is just in love with books, computer and journals?  We may sit in front of the computer a lot but that doesn’t mean we are isolated. Don’t let anyone label you just because you are a writer. If you are the solitary person, it’s fine. However, you don’t have to be.

Myth 2 – You need to be a perfect writer before you write professionally

Does this make so much sense to you because it doesn’t make so much sense to us. If you don’t start writing you will never be a good writer. Don’t wait till you become ‘professional’ before you start writing. How would you even become a professional if you don’t write? All you must do to become a good writer is to write, write, write, study the craft, practice the craft, then write some more.

Besides, even the most successful writers you admire had no clue what they were doing until they did it.

Myth 3 – Writing is a compulsion

We bet you have heard this before:  “I just have to write, otherwise I’ll go crazy!”

But is this true though? Do you actually feel like you’d go crazy or in fact do you really go crazy when you don’t write? Maybe not. We think some people say it because it sounds fresh. This however is not true.  If writers were so driven to write, why doesn’t a lot more writing get done? Feeling a desire to claim you’re writing but not actually writing much has nothing to do with compulsive, irresistible talent.

Over to you, what other writing myths do you think we should get rid of?

#WriterSpotlight – “There’s peace, calm, happiness and fulfillment with every piece I write.” Kanyinsola Okafor

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There’s something fresh about each #WriterSpotlight feature. Each writer brings in a new perspective to writing and we love it. Today we interviewed Kanyinsola Okafor. She became a published writer when she was 9 and her advice to other writers is simply beautiful!

Enjoy.

Hello Kanyinsola. Can you tell us a bit about yourself and what you do?

My name is Kanyinsola Okafor, I’m Yoruba-Igbo. I was born in Lagos, Nigeria, grew up in Surulere and I graduated from the Federal College of Education (Technical) Akoka, Lagos State, with a Distinction; studying Integrated Science/Biology Education. I am a full time beauty consultant and professional makeup artist. 

How did your journey as a writer begin?  

My journey as a writer began a long time ago as a child. When I was much younger I used to think that I would travel the world gathering and reporting news; become a journalist. I loved reading (still do). Because I started reading at a young age I developed my creative and imaginative ability. My goal was to write my own stories and become a published writer at the age of 9.

What do you love most about writing?

That’s a deep one, I love everything about writing. But what I love the most is the “freedom of expression” that it gives. The ability to unleash my innermost thoughts without restrictions. When I write, there’s this peace and calm and happiness, fulfillment, that comes with every piece I write. Knowing that I have expressed words in emotions deep that others can’t help but feel.

You are very talented when it comes to writing short stories. How were you able to master this talent?

Hmmmn, I think I mastered it without realization. I write mostly poetry; poems & prose, but frequently I have tried to develop myself in writing long stories (novels). In the process of this development, I think I mastered the talent of writing short stories.

Where do you get inspiration from when you want to write a story?

I get inspiration from anything and everything. It’s really random for me. It might just be a word, a character, a scene or sound that sparks my interest…and thus a story is developed!

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There are people who believe that writing can never be financially rewarding. What are your thoughts about this?

I think that in everything you do, “What you give, is What you get.” Most people are not willing to give all it takes to establish themselves in the field, yet they want to make money from it. I believe one can be very much rewarded financially if they consistently and strategically work towards it. 

What is your ultimate dream as a writer?

My ultimate goal as a writer is to be recognized globally for my talents. To write mind blowing stories (novels) that get adapted as movies. To be categorized with the of likes Chinua Achebe, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, and Wole Soyinka.

Do you think you will ever retire from writing?

No, never. ‘Writing is a part of my Soul’. I could never let go of it. I’m very much addicted to writing, and sincerely, it’s an addiction I never want to be freed from.

Aside from writing, what are your other hobbies?

Asides from writing, I love to sing, act, dance, read, cook, draw, etc.

Any advice for other writers out there?

Yes. “Don’t Stop Writing“. Don’t be discouraged because the stories you wish to tell have already been told by someone else. There is only ONE YOU, and no one else can be YOU, or express your thoughts the way YOU can. So stop doubting yourself, “Write in a way ONLY YOU can, learn the rules and then create your own rules”. It’s not a competition with anyone else. You might not be so good at it right now, but if you continue to be consistent in it, you’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll become.

This is how to handle criticism like a pro

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We’ve all been there, some of us have terrible editors who would always find a reason to correct your work and almost make you feel inept while others have gotten a fair share of bashing from readers on the content of our work.

But how we handle such criticism shows a lot about our maturity as writers.

Today we will give you three guaranteed tips on how to handle criticism like a pro.

Trust your self and your work 

You must understand that your work will never be perfect in the eyes of some people, so you should not let the opinion of some people ruin your self esteem. Trust yourself. You are still a good writer. These comments come majorly because your work can be better.

There will however be times when the comments on your work will not necessarily be correct

You can politely explain to the reader, editor or who ever made the comment why you wrote what you did. But if you’ve lost your esteem already, you may not even notice that there was a mistake in the correction.

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Learn from your mistakes

There is nothing more annoying than repeating the same mistake over and over.

When your editor corrects a mistake please make sure you do all you can to avoid repeating the same mistakes. This will ultimately reduce the number of times your work will be corrected.

When people correct the same error repeatedly they tend to get angry and the tone in which they’d speak or write the correction may become a little bit harsh.

Don’t even allow this to happen by learning from your mistakes.

Move on 

So your work wasn’t good and you got quite a number of criticism. It’s time to move on. Instead of wallowing in self-defeat, salvage what you can, and use the experience as a lesson to fail forward.

Wondering if you’ve got what it takes, blaming your editor, and suffering from a martyr complex won’t help you write a better article next time.

 

#WriterSpotlight – “Don’t give up on your dream of becoming a published author.” Jokotade Adeniyi

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Hello Sparkle Writers, are you ready for another mind blowing session on today’s #WriterSpotlight? We have the uber inspiring Jokotade, author, speaker and founder of the Jokotade Network. Her story is truly unique. After giving up on her dreams to become a published author for years, Jokotade decided to give herself a fresh start. If you’ve been having problems making your writing dreams come true, Jokotade’s story is what you need!

Hello Jokotade. Can you tell us a bit about yourself and what you do?

My name is Vivian “Jokotade” Adeniyi and my audience fondly knows me as “Jokotade”. I am a Nigerian-American author, speaker, and thought leader on topics relating to women, business and leadership. I am also the founder of The Jokotade Network, which hosts a variety of talk shows with audiences in over 100 countries. Behind the scenes, I am a wife, mother and an entrepreneur.

Have you always known that you would be a writer and a speaker.

From my childhood, I loved to write and tell stories to impact people’s lives. I was also placed in several leadership roles that gave me opportunities to speak. So, I think it’s safe to say yes that I have been on the path of making something of those childhood experiences.

What inspired you to write your book, ‘Fresh Start’?

Well, the simple answer to that question is this – My Struggles. After facing and overcoming several challenges and setbacks at different points in my life, I felt inspired to share my story in my own way and in my own voice. People often see you at the end of a tunnel but never really hear of the dark side of the journey through that tunnel. Writing my book ‘Fresh Start’ was a way for me to warmly and sincerely share how I overcame the many challenges life has brought my way. I had somehow lost myself to life and quickly became a woman who stopped investing in her dreams. Life had happened, and I lost all maps providing any form of direction and plan for my future. I desired the opportunity to simply start over and leave my struggles behind. This book is a result of my personal journey to find my way, rebuild my life, get back on track, and move forward. It is a book about dreams coming to pass. It is a book about reaching for your potential.

Writing a book had been a dream for you for a long time. How did you feel when ‘Fresh Start’ was finally published?

I felt so much joy, fulfilment, relief, and freedom…all at the same time. My faith to reach for the impossible grew even more once ‘Fresh Start’ was published. I’ve always felt nothing is impossible but now I know nothing is really impossible. I still pinch myself and ask “Did I really write this book?” (giggles)

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Can you take us through the journey of writing the book; what challenges did you face and how were you able to overcome them?

Oh my goodness, the process of writing a book is like being pregnant…from conception to delivery…it is a process that must take its due course if you want to be successful as an author. I must confess that it was a lot of hard work as I penned each chapter all by myself with no ghost writing. I learned that I have more inside of me than I actually realize.

As I mentioned earlier, from my childhood I loved to write and tell stories to inspire people. I dreamt of becoming an author “someday”. Now, you and I know that when it comes to writing there is no such thing as “someday” so that “someday” never came to pass. I began the journey of pursuing that dream of becoming an author, but somewhere along the way…life happened. I never actually followed through on that dream.  I cannot begin to tell you how many book ideas I have had over the years. I would start, stop, start over again, and eventually give up. When I observed that I had somehow lost sight of my dreams of becoming an author and the fulfillment of that dream was lacking, I desired a fresh start and chose to look in a different direction.

I sought counsel by studying other experienced authors I could relate to. I learned that I wasn’t alone in my struggle to follow through on great ideas. I also learned the single most important lesson every aspiring author needs to know and it’s this: choose one book title, and then focus and commit to that book title every day until the book is complete and published. It seemed very difficult and unattainable at first, but the moment I made that choice and committed to writing something every day and at a specific, dedicated time, I began to see remarkable progress. As I write in the book, I am so glad I discovered what I needed to do and I did it…and now…it’s history. I learned from my struggles that focus and commitment will lead you to completion if you don’t give up.

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‘Fresh Start’ is available in major book stores in the US. How were you able to achieve such a great feat?

HARD and PERSISTENT work! Let’s just say I asked my way out of zero with this book. I dreamt of producing a bestseller quality with this book. I worked hard on every detail of the book from the cover to the layout to its distribution. I personally researched how the book could be listed on some of the world’s largest distribution channels and applied to be listed. This made it easier for booksellers to find, source and list my book.

In your journey as a writer, can you share some of your most rewarding moments with us?

One major highlight for me was when I received and held the printed proof copy of the paperback book in my hands for the very first time. Another moment was when my eight-year-old son took a copy of the book to school to show his teachers and friends.  A third and very special moment for me was when I arrived at the live book launch event.  It really did feel like a dream. I also will never forget when the hardcover copy finally arrived, I remember driving with the book holding it so close to my heart…hoping it won’t slip away.

You are committed to helping women to win in life, love and business. Why did you decide to focus on women?

…Because I am a woman (chuckles). More than ever before I am better able to articulate my life purpose or let’s just say my life calling. Along with my past experiences, I have paid attention to my path in life and discovered that I was born to lead and inspire women first. Fulfilling this role comes naturally and very passionately for me. It only made sense that I raise my hands and answer the call.

In my journey, I observed that there are not enough written or spoken resources that specifically address or support the struggles women face and in the language women understand and desperately seek.

I hope to harness the power of technology using my written and spoken voice to help women bridge the gap of where they are and where they want to be in life, love and business – I haven’t met any woman that doesn’t want to thrive in any of these areas.

You also have an app; can you tell us all about it?

In 2014, I felt inspired to start a podcast with my name. I titled it ‘The Jokotade Show’. I had no idea what it would evolve into. The Jokotade Show became an avenue for me to cover a diverse set of topics to meet the many different needs of my audience. I have since seen the need to breakup The Jokotade Show into specialized segments – resulting in The Jokotade Network of Shows. Each show is true to my personality, the many hats I wear and the many roles I juggle every day. I also developed an App for the convenience of my audience. The App is called ‘Jokotade’ and it helps my audience access their favourite shows from The Jokotade Network on their mobile devices.  It’s like having your own success coach everywhere you go (laugh out loud).

 

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Aside from becoming a published writer, what other writing goals do you have?

It’s no secret that I am passionate about writing nonfiction. I dream of writing over 50 nonfiction titles, however, I do also have a dream of writing romance titles for television one day. Let’s just say I am a hopeful romantic and I hope to spread the goodness of love to the next generation – laughing out loud.

What advice do you have for an upcoming writer who wants to publish a book some day?

Let me begin by saying – Please don’t give up on your dream of becoming a published author. If there is one advice I can shout from the roof top its this – Schedule time for your book-writing dream. I often say:

Let your schedule reflect your destination.

If you dream of becoming an author like me, then go ahead and schedule time for that dream destination. You see…Dreams just don’t happen. Dreams are scheduled. Choose a date for your “someday” so your “someday” will become your “launch day”. I wrote this book with what some have labeled an almost impossible schedule as a wife, mother of two young children, entrepreneur, community leader and mentor to thousands. In the last quarter of 2015, I adjusted my personal schedule to reflect my priorities and destination for 2016. This adjustment helped me fulfill my dream of becoming a published author in April of 2016. Now, I am on to my next books…take note of the plural…books and I believe you reading this interview can too!

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Jokotade continues to pursue her dreams. Discover her network of shows including The Jokotade Show, The Before I Do Show and The Idea to Influence Show helping her audiences win in life, love and business. Her shows are available on her mobile App “Jokotade” available for free on the PLAY store and on iTunes. For more of her inspiring story, wisdom and practical insight visit her home online. For a complete list of where to find her book “Fresh Start” visit the official page for the book online at FreshStartJourney.com. Be sure to also follow her on social media @jokotadeshow.

 

This is the difference between good and bad writers

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What do you think makes a writer good or bad? His writing style? The number of words he writes in every blog post or the number of books he has written or even sold?

You are about to find out!

A good writer is first identified by his perseverance and dedication to the craft not his skill. Good writers don’t quit. Let’s explain what we mean.

An amateur writer who decides to write everyday and keeps to this will eventually become better than a writer who had gained some skill but stopped writing at a point. Bad writers quit. Good writers keep going.

You must be writing to be a writer. Some people see ‘Writer’ as some kind of title but it’s not.

If you want to be a good writer then keep writing, through the rejection, writing block and frustration. That’s how we know you love what you’re doing.

Good writers know there’s nothing like an overnight success

There’s no how this will happen. There’s a process and you must respect it. It’s that simple.

A good writer knows his audience. 

How will you write well if you don’t even know who your audience is, what they want and what language they understand? A good writer focuses on who he is presenting his piece to and makes the piece appealing to that audience.

 A good writer knows that there’s always room for improvement 

No matter how fantastic your work is there is always something better you can do. The point is that no one is perfect. A good writer realizes this, but doesn’t give up there. A good writer continues learning, and he brings in knowledge about everything from appealing to his audience to learning about different writing styles and everything in between.

There are other things that make a good writer, can you tell us some of them?

 

#WriterSpotlight – “Your career will be more satisfying if you write what’s most important to you.” Ibitola Adebayo

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Can we just say that today’s interview is superb! Our guest on today’s #WriterSpotlight is the multiple award winning writer, Ibitola Adebayo. She is about to release a new book called Lizzy Adams but despite all her awards as an outstanding author, Ibitola had to deal with rejection from publishers at the early stages of her writing journey. In our interview with her, she shares how she was able to get her first book published and also become the well recognised author that she is today.

Enjoy!

Hello Ibitola. Can you tell us a bit about yourself?

Well I’m a UK based multi-award winning author of best-selling books: ‘Acceptance’ & ‘Acceptance: Into the Darkness’ which are a series of fictional stories. I am a graduate of the University of Portsmouth with a BSc in Pharmacology. My genre of writing is Contemporary Romance with a twist which is a portal into my mind and soul. Sparked with a passion for gothic horror, mystery and romance novels; my top writing influences include Virginia Andrews and Stephen King. I am also a strong woman coming from a family line of strong and inspirational women. I am a mother of three beautiful girls.

Why did you decide to become a writer?

To be honest I stumbled into writing. I never had an interest in writing but I loved books. My mother having sent me away to boarding school in Nigeria, used to send me novels all the time, I guess as a form of a treat for being absent in my adolescent life. At first l was angry a lot at her and my father for sending me away so I always ignored the books. Thinking if l ignored them l was making some kind of statement, even though my mother wasn’t around to see me make those statements. I eventually got bored and started reading them. I use to spend all my spare time with a novel. I still remember my first book ‘Flowers in the Attic’ by Virginia Andrews.  I became obsessed and got lost in a world that was sweet as honey. Anytime I was asked what l wanted my mother to send to me from the UK instead of asking to be taken back to home to England like l always did and getting the same old response from my grandmother, “You are home” l started asking for Virginia Andrew books. Perhaps it was inevitable that I would grow up to be a writer.

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What are your thoughts about the reading culture in Nigeria?

I think the reading culture has dwindled over the years. But to be honest when people have to spend their entire time making ends meet, what time – or money – do they have to read?

But unfortunately parents being the principal educators of their children cannot pretend that sending their children to schools will necessarily morph their kids into book worms. Buy books; encourage them to read newspapers, magazines and other literature. Poor reading skills can make a child develop a poor attitude toward school and can create self-esteem problems later in life. Reading skills are essential to succeed in society.

What would you say is the biggest challenge you have faced as an author?

It took me a year to get ‘Acceptance’ out. I spent all my spare moments writing. Sometimes it will go on until 4 am. My husband has woken up beside me many times with a look of concern. I always just reassured him that I was fine and just needed to write just another paragraph. I continued like this until the book was finally published. The first draft was a lot of hard work, trying to find an agent to believe in my work battered my self-esteem, as having your manuscript on submission feels like lining people up to insult your baby.

How rewarding has writing been for you?

Since I released my first book 3 years ago, I have become a recipient of numerous local and international awards, some of them are: ‘The  Author  of  the  Year  Award’  at  the  Divas of  Colour  Awards  UK  2015. ‘Author of the Year’ at the C-HUB Creativity Awards 2015, ‘Author of the Year’ at the African Women Rock Awards UK 2015, ‘Diaspora  Writer  of  the  Year’ at  the  Nigerian  Writers  Awards  2016, ‘Most Outstanding Author of the year’ Award at The Highflyer Entrepreneurs Online Award 2016 and ‘Best Author’ at the  just-concluded BEFFTA AWARDS UK 2016. I have also been nominated for quite a few other awards which are set to hold within 2016 and 2017.

You are launching your new book, Lizzy Adams, in a few weeks. Can you tell us what inspired you to write the book?

I campaign strongly for the girl-child and one of the best ways in which I am able to do this is through my stories. My writing is my voice. A way to speak out on issues surrounding us as human beings each and everyday.

This ambition consequently birthed my up-coming book, ‘MY NAME IS LIZZY ADAMS’ which is the introductory part of the Lizzy Adams Boarding Mysteries series; a young adult fictional novel which  is due to be launched 16 December 2016.  This new book also gave birth to my new initiative ‘THE LIZZY ADAMS Brand.’

My mission is to change mind-sets that have long-prevented girls from pursuing their dreams.  My aim is for the girl-child to her their full potential and live her best life story. The ‘Lizzy Adams’ platform aims to empower the girl-child by directing them through the path that would empower and inspire them to becoming the very best at their chosen career paths.

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What should readers expect from the book, Lizzy Adams?

My upcoming book ‘My name is Lizzy Adams’ is a compelling story of true friendship and sacrifice, love and betrayal and above all the bravery of a girl who chose to stand out in a strange land. The novel will be the first of a series of books from the ‘Lizzy Adams Boarding Mysteries’. I plan to write four more books in the series.

What’s the worst thing anyone has said about your article or book?

I haven’t had any negative thing said to me directly about my book.

If you had to choose, which of your published work is your favourite and why?

It would have to be my first book ‘Acceptance’. When I started on this journey of being an author I never planned to be a mentor to anyone to be honest. All I wanted was to publish my first book. When ‘Acceptance’ was published for some reason God sent countless young people especially in Nigeria my way, requesting my mentorship and guidance especially as it relates with their writing interests and their dreams of becoming successful authors. At first I was a bit shocked as the only young people that looked up to me were my siblings now I had all these people, young and old looking up to me. I then realized apart from my siblings I had a responsibility to all these people as well.

Many writers face challenges getting their books published. Do you have any advice that they may find useful?

Authors should not be lazy. They should not believe in romantic notions of how publishing works. They should do their PR as well as their homework. As there are many other authors out there the competition is great. They should learn to swim in the opposite direction in an aquarium.

There’s a perception that one cannot earn a living from writing. What are your thoughts about this?

Writers can work full or part time, and earn a supplemental income to help cover the bills or generate a lucrative primary income. Every business and every industry needs writers. What you make will depend on how good you are, what you choose to write, and how much you are willing to work. There’s also a social factor. Your career will be more satisfying if you write what’s most important to you, or what you know most about. You might be passionate about health and beauty, business, technology, gaming, or auto repair. Wherever your expertise lies, there’s a market, publishing platforms, and an audience.

Do you think you will ever retire from writing?

Yes. When I am 6 feet under.

Where do you see yourself and your works in five years?

I see myself writing more books, mentoring up and coming authors and further advocating for the struggles of the girl-child.

What do you do in your leisure time?

Apart from looking after my family and working, I look for other new inventive ways of promoting myself as a brand.

Any last words for upcoming writers?

Everyone starts by learning from the masters, by emulating them, and then through them, you find your own voice. Read a lot. As much as possible. Pay close attention to style and mechanics in addition to content.

Keep a little notebook handy and write down ideas for stories or novels or characters. Having these ideas written down helps, because they can inspire you or actually go directly into your writing. I find that it’s so much better to write like you talk (without all the umms and uhhs). People relate to it better.

Sometimes you have to ignore the doubt and just write

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Most writers, if not all, go through a period of crippling doubt. There is this feeling that your work is not good enough. You’ve read it several times that all you have to do is to ‘ignore the doubt and just write’. Yet, you can’t get past the thought that your work is not good enough.

If this is something you can relate with, here are some practical steps that will help you conquer this self doubt;

  •  Be aware of peer pressure

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If you’re hanging out with negative people, people who have lost their ability to chase their dreams, you’re at risk of becoming just like them. Find positive people who will validate your dreams and work ethics and support your journey.

  •  Accept that sometimes you are going to fail.

You are not always going to write well. You will get rejections. The number of rejections you receive doesn’t matter. You are not defeated until you let yourself be defeated. Once you have that mindset you will not easily get depressed when you have those moments.

  • Grow continually as a writer.

When you grow continually, it becomes easy to overcome self-doubt. Read how-to books, take classes, attend those writer meetings and listen to what other writers offer as advice. Above all, don’t stop writing the more you write the better you will become.

Talk to other writers. Writing can be an isolating experience. Sharing your feelings with another human being who is going through the exact same thing can be a cathartic experience for all involved.

You have a great gift. So do not allow self-doubt to diminish that gift.